Cheering on a Friend (#183/365)
Posted by: Devyl GyrlMy friend A, who came to stay with me for a few days to get some breathing room, is about to take on some huge changes in her life. She is miserable in her job, and the misery has caused she and her BFF to stop talking to one another. The job also keeps her from her two boys, a lot.
She was offered a job today, and she is fairly certain she wants to take it. If she does, she likely will not get the house she is in the process of trying to buy. That means going back to apartment living, which is something she dreads.
She made me feel incredibly good today, though. I was talking to her about making the choice to be happy with what you are doing in life, even if it isn’t exactly what you WANT or HOPED or PLANNED to be doing. She said to me that she noticed I am happy now, despite the negative circumstances surrounding my life right now. She also told me that she mentioned to her mom that being up here with me made her realize she just needed to simplify things, and that she just needed to focus on spending time with her kids.
I know I feel happier. I know I feel less angry. What I didn’t know is if anyone else could see that change in me … and it thrilled me to know that at least some people do.
I am praying for A, and for things to turn out exactly right for her - even if that “exactly right” was not what she planned and hoped and wanted. She works her ass off and has two brilliant and beautiful boys, and the three of them deserve all the happiness in the world. She’s made so many changes for the positive … she needs to start seeing those changes for what they are: accomplishments.
xoxo
July 3rd, 2009 at 1:14 pm
It is great that you had a great time together and that you helped her out. You are a great friend!!!
July 3rd, 2009 at 2:40 pm
Tell her from someone that knows… doing what will make you happy is the best thing you can do for yourself and your loved ones. Sometimes you have to suck it up and just DO IT!
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July 4th, 2009 at 7:37 pm
Let A know that she has my love and what support my good feelings will give. :-*
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July 6th, 2009 at 11:31 am
Her kids won’t care if they are in an apartment or a house, spending time with a happy; less stressed mom will be completely worth it!
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