I saw a post on FB from my cousin’s wife, who was gushing about what a wonderful man and husband my cousin is, and it confused me. I love my cousin, and think he’s great … but she tends to complain about him, belittle him, make him feel worthless. So, why, on their anniversary, does she pretend to think differently?
I had a great day with the triplets and their 2.5 yr old brother the other day, especially since the couple of times that they all decided to cry at once, their father would come in quietly, snag one of them, and go back to his home office. It got me to thinking: HOW do they do this, day in and day out? I was a little tired by the end of the day, but I had only spent 12 hours there. I had even gotten a good half-hour of quiet time when ALL of the babies were either sleeping or occupied, so they did not want to be held. I know this is rare - with three 8-month olds, someone ALWAYS wants to be held! I wish I had a better, more consistent way to help them. They must have a great support system, because Mom, Dad, older brother, and triplets are all happy and healthy and beautiful together.
Why is it so difficult for some people to just be honest with the people they care about? If something isn’t working, hiding the fact that it is not working will not FIX the problem, it will only exacerbate the issue and make it bigger, uglier, bloodier. Speak up, people! Face the music and deal!
What is it about kids that gets them to play by themselves, quietly, when you do not care one way or the other … but when you want an hour to be able to exercise uninterrupted, they suddenly ALL need to come out at least 10 times to get a drink, ask a question, or get something from the next room? Poor BFF was trying to exercise alone the other day, and was interrupted so many times she ended up giving up on the 2nd half of what she wanted to do. Yesterday, when I went to exercise with her, I threatened the kids with imminent danger if they came out of their rooms. I cannot remember the last time any one of them was spanked … but the threat of it sure does scare them (despite their giggles) into staying away. In fact, the way they giggled when I told them to go away and stay away for one hour made me think they’d be out every five minutes, but they actually did stay tucked away in their bedrooms for the most part!
Have you ever contacted someone out of the blue, just to say hi? I did recently, and was pleasantly surprised with where my friend is in life. I’m quite proud of him for turning his life around and becoming the person I always knew he could be … and I am sure he was quite startled to see me where I am now. LOL
Ok, enough randomness. Love!
xoxo
