Friends and Influences
Posted by: Devyl GyrlI have said before, and will say again: I have the greatest friends, EVER. I myself am not anything spectacular. I hold no great gifts, I do *not* have money. I am not beautiful. I am of just above-average intelligence. However, I manage to befriend (and be befriended by) some of the most talented, gifted, beautiful, and intelligent people. I see great things happening all around me, and am sometimes able to contribute or take part in them, because of these incredible friends. What concerns me today is the way that people try to influence others.
- One person does not hold the belief that something is correct, and as such tries to get another to step outside of their morals to commit an act the first person thinks is fun, or even necessary.
- Another person holds hate in their heart from something or other, and insists on trying to instigate an argumentative-natured conversation with someone else, just to make themselves feel better.
- Yet another person inserts rude and disruptive commentary into conversations, rather than just ignoring the threads that (s)he finds boring or mundane.
- Still another preys on the sensitive topics in the lives of people, digging in and making nasty comments.
Why do these things need to be said and done? Why can’t you just accept the people around you for who they are, respect their boundaries, and discuss topics that you both find of interest? If you do not like what is being said in a conversation, MOVE ON! Nobody is forcing you to speak up and say something nasty just so you’re not forgotten. You make that choice, and the rest of us are forced to live with it or block your “friendship” status. Seriously … does it need to get to that point?
Not one person I have ever met - no matter how beautiful, talented, gifted, or knowledgeable - is a MASTER in every subject under the sun. Just because you have had an experience, or seen someone have an experience, does not mean that the experience will be the same for the person you are speaking to currently. Nor does it mean you need to pretend to have THE KNOWLEDGE that person needs. Share your story … but don’t pretend to be an expert. WE ALL KNOW YOU ARE NOT.
I have the greatest friends in the world. This, I truly believe. Through my amazing friends, I meet others who I tolerate, or enjoy in small bursts. I have a high tolerance, especially when it comes to someone or something that is loved by someone I love and cherish. My tolerance is running low.
I do not want to make the choice to *narrow* my playing field … I believe that is how my parents became so narrow-minded.
So, I beg of you all … Be yourself, and quit trying to be something you are not.
xoxo
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P.S. Don’t forget to stop by and donate a few buckaroos to help my friend Aidan and the rest of Team Taji in their efforts to collect enough school supplies for children to be able to attend the school they are helping to rebuild.
xoox
September 7th, 2009 at 10:22 am
well said lady. Well said. !!! Sometimes it’s hard to remember we dont HAVE to participate in such conversations and stuff. Very Well said
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September 8th, 2009 at 12:04 am
Thanks for the great post, and I totally agree.
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September 8th, 2009 at 8:01 pm
What did I miss?
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September 10th, 2009 at 12:46 pm
Well said! I have many times chosen to remove myself from a conversation to avoid the rude or hateful tone it has taken.
xoxoxo
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September 13th, 2009 at 12:31 pm
Gosh, there seems to be a lot of this going around. I’m sorry you were involved in anything so sordid
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October 7th, 2009 at 8:21 pm
It is one of the things that I teach… That everyone is unique and different and we have to accept them for who they are.
Many hugs.
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